There are opportunities every day to have a first encounter with a woman and do some flirting. Men have to be more cautious these days about approaching women so they don’t come across as some sort of creepy or scary guy. Women will be even more cautious of advances if they have their children with them. It doesn’t mean don’t try, just be respectful of their concern for their safety and their children’s safety.
In a bar, grocery store, or even a parking lot, be very observant of the woman’s comfort level of how close you are to her. Most women will need a little more room than you do to feel comfortable. Never approach a woman where she may feel vulnerable. Stay in well lit and crowded areas for first encounters. It is more challenging in today’s times to approach women, but it can be done.
Before you head out of the house be sure to have clean, fresh smelling clothes on. Take the time to shave and shower. Make sure your breath smells fresh. If you are just heading to the store, keep the cologne to a minimum. Have a pen and paper, or your cell handy in case you find someone you want to exchange phone numbers with so you don’t have to wait for her to rummage through her purse.
Before beginning flirting, it is best to try to identify the person as single. If there is a ring on her finger, just stop yourself right there, no need to add drama and heartache to your life. For the others that there is no way to tell, conversation starters can give you clues. You can even throw hints in that you are single. Here are a few to get you started:
If at a grocery store her cart looks like she’s buying ingredients to make a meal-say “It looks like you know how to cook. Being single, it’s hard for me to cook for just one person, I bet your boyfriend/husband appreciates you.”
If its a woman with a group-say “if you look this good going out with your friends, you must look really good going out with your boyfriend or husband.”
For a woman alone-say “the man you are waiting for is really lucky to have a woman like you here to meet him.”
Depending on the answer, you will know what direction to go. Keep your eyes open even if she gives you an answer that would indicate that she is single; not everyone is honest about their relationship status.
With a little thought you can think of more ways to start a conversation to see if you can move to the next step of flirting. Never put down the partner in case there is one. Who knows, she may be single some day and run into you or have a great single friend. Presenting yourself as a positive person with a positive outlook on relationships will get you further.
Flirting isn’t just coming up with the latest and greatest pick up lines. Tried and true pick up lines can make you come across like a player. Flirting is making that lady feel special and that she has your adoring attention for that moment. It is about body language even more than the conversation. Here are some ways to make a conversation turn into flirting:
Consistent direct eye contact (that means don’t turn your head when someone you think is good looking walks by).
Keep a comfortable distance, but slightly lean towards her when talking and listening.
Pay her compliments (not just about appearance, show her that you are paying attention to what she is telling you about herself)
Lots of smiling.
If in close proximity, like what occurs in a bar, while mutually laughing about something, briefly touch her arm (do not be anywhere near the breasts when doing so).
Flirting tips for first encounters in a store:
A grocery store shopping cart is a great conversation starter. There are all kinds of things to talk about from favorite toothpaste to dinner suggestions. Most stores provide a casual and relaxed environment to start conversations. You will see the “real” person and she will not have her wall of protection up as high.
Children may be with a woman when she is shopping. If you genuinely like kids and don’t mind dating a woman with kids, go ahead and start flirting. Acknowledge the children but don’t look too interested in them. Try to fit in a comment about safety to the kids “it is only OK to talk to me when your mom is with you, always be careful who you talk to”. If you can make a genuine compliment to the kids, do so.
Before you leave the area where the woman is that you are flirting with, ask her out. Looking for her or following her through the store can make you look like the stalking type. Make the first date casual like coffee or breakfast date.
Flirting tips for first encounters in a bar:
Don’t use pick up lines and think you will get anywhere. Pick up lines can be conversation starters, though. Ask about the worse ones she’s ever heard and tell her a couple that you tried before you knew better.
Use the noise in a bar as an excuse to get a little closer than you can in other situations. Be sure to keep her smiling.
Not all flirting will end up in a date. Keep practicing. When there is no one around that you are interested in flirting with, watch how others flirt. Pay attention to what matches your personality and what works.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
16 Unexpected Health And Beauty Benefits Of Sex
There are a few things most of us women have in common: we appreciate a decadent dessert, we love a clearance sale at our favorite store and we all wouldn't mind looking and feeling younger and healthier.
Some of us are so devoted to our personal fountain of youth, we invest small fortunes into overflowing bathrooms filled with lotions and potions, visits to trainers, doctors, nutritionists and healers… whatever it takes to find the miracles that will give us smoother skin, fuller hair, less aches and pains, reduce terminal illness risk and just overall, make us feel awesome. Well as it turns out, the secret to youth, might just be right between the sheets: sex!
That's right. Sure, sex feels good, can make you fall more deeply in love, sometimes makes you want to wear a naughty nurse's outfit, you get the picture. But sex is also proven to be good for you, physically. An active sex regimen, a prescription of 2-3 times per week, has fascinating and evidenced-based benefits. Therefore if sex has become a non-priority in your life, you may want to reconsider putting at the top of your "to do" list, because not only could sexcapading result in stronger teeth, it could actually save your life.
Here are 16 health and beauty benefits we reap from having sex:
1. Keeps our skin young and healthy. Sex increases blood circulation, which helps pump oxygen to our skin resulting in a brighter appearance—which explains that after-sex glow. Regular sexual engagement has prolonged effects in this regard and can actually make us look younger. Sex boosts our natural collagen production, which staves off age spots and sagging. So simply put, more wrinkles in the bed = fewer wrinkles on your face!
2. Boosts immunity. You know the old saying, "An apple a day keeps the doctor away"? Turns out there was a typo in that medical journal. It should have said, "Having sex once or twice a week increases levels of an antibody called immunoglobin A (that's the stuff that fights off colds and other infections), which really keeps the doctor away!" Deduction: more sex means a stronger immune system. And with all of those unused sick days, we can cash them out and use them as sex days. Now we're talking!
3. Gives us great hair. Hormones not only control our sex drives, but also the condition of our hair. Research has shown that a satisfying sex life results in healthy, lush hair due to the body's increased ability to receive and metabolize nutrients efficiently. Proof positive that Angelina Jolie and Catherina Zeta-Jones have healthy sex lives!
4. Produces healthy sperm. We know men are proud of their sperm counts, but now we can be, too. Several studies show that men who have frequent sex have higher volumes of semen, a higher sperm count and a higher percentage of healthy sperm compared to men who have infrequent sex. This is good news for women, as research shows the absorption of semen helps us combat depression, boosts our energy and even helps us have a smoother delivery, if we're pregnant. Keys To Happiness: Wealth, Weddings, Semen
5. Reduces stress. Life is stressful. And while there are many proven ways to cure stress: daily exercise, evening glass of wine, bitch-fest with a BFF, morning meditation, a walk on the beach and so on—a good, old-fashioned sex session does the trick, too! Though blood pressure levels spike during the act itself, maintaining a healthy sex life helps us keep blood pressure and stress levels low.
6. Strenghtens nails. The same sex-triggered hormones that make your skin glow also make our nails strong, which means less splitting and breaking, and longer-lasting manicures.
7. Improves heart health. Want your guy to live to 100? Sex can help! Research shows that men who have sex 2+ times per week have a lower risk of heart disease than those who have sex less than once a month. Of course, I've yet to meet a guy who needed cardiovascular research to convince him to have more frequent romps in the sack, but isn't it nice to know we are helping our guys' hearts whenever we have sex?
8. Zaps zits. Say bye-bye to acne treatments and miracle pills! Sex balances our hormone levels, which results in clearer skin. Probably good we didn't know this in high school...
9. Keeps us hydrated. Now here is some real science for you: sex improves circulation, so our blood flows more efficiently, which in turn gives our bodies the moisture they needs to stay healthy. Translation: no more dry skin. Furthermore, having sweaty sex can be like a facial for your skin, as sweat expels excess dirt from our pores. Your man: the sex god and the esthetician!? Who knew?
10. Acts as a natural pain killer. Oxytocin, one of the chemicals released during sex, increases endorphins and decreases pain, particularly headaches—which means that standby headache excuse isn't going to cut it anymore. Sex also speeds up the healing of wounds, even stubborn sores like those suffered by diabetics. Before heading to the medicine cabinet, see if a quickie can't cure minor ailments!
11. Sheds pounds. Got a few pounds to lose but aren't willing to abandon your love affair with hot wings and chocolate cake? Sex could be an option! While it may not be as productive at weight loss as more traditional cardio or strength training, we burn an average of 170 calories per hour of active sex, which is about a pound after 21 hour-long sessions. There are certainly worse ways to lose weight.
12. Lowers our risk of cancer. We love our guys, so let's love their prostates too by helping them get off more often. Studies show that men in their 20s who ejaculate 5+ times a week reduced their risk of prostate cancer by a third, and older men reporting 21+ ejaculations per month lowered their risk as well. As for us ladies, regular sex has been shown to reduce our risk of breast cancer.
13. Fights cavities. Turns out that semen is chock-full of zinc, calcium and other tooth decay-fighting minerals that benefit us when our bodies absorb it. While having lots of sex can't replace a biannual trip to the dentist, having extra doses of these minerals certainly can't hurt our pearly whites.
14. Helps us sleep. Ever wondered why your man konks out after sex? Turns out, he's not trying to avoid a cuddle session. The oxytocin released during orgasm is to blame. The next time you can't sleep, skip the warm milk or sleeping pill, and try getting busy instead.
15. Strengthens our bond. Oxytocin is known as the "love hormone" because it helps people build trust and bond with one other. The more sex a couple has, the more oxytocin is exchanged and, by default, the more bonded they feel. Oxytocin increases feelings of generosity, too, so if you wind up with more random acts of kindness like surprise flowers, you have this miracle hormone to thank.
16. Makes you feel sexy! There is good sex and then there is GREAT sex, and one of the differentiators is your self-esteem. When you feel amazing about yourself, sex is infinitely better. But here is the catch—having sex actually boosts your self-esteem. So the next time you're feeling so-so on the sexy scale, see if a good romp doesn't help
Some of us are so devoted to our personal fountain of youth, we invest small fortunes into overflowing bathrooms filled with lotions and potions, visits to trainers, doctors, nutritionists and healers… whatever it takes to find the miracles that will give us smoother skin, fuller hair, less aches and pains, reduce terminal illness risk and just overall, make us feel awesome. Well as it turns out, the secret to youth, might just be right between the sheets: sex!
That's right. Sure, sex feels good, can make you fall more deeply in love, sometimes makes you want to wear a naughty nurse's outfit, you get the picture. But sex is also proven to be good for you, physically. An active sex regimen, a prescription of 2-3 times per week, has fascinating and evidenced-based benefits. Therefore if sex has become a non-priority in your life, you may want to reconsider putting at the top of your "to do" list, because not only could sexcapading result in stronger teeth, it could actually save your life.
Here are 16 health and beauty benefits we reap from having sex:
1. Keeps our skin young and healthy. Sex increases blood circulation, which helps pump oxygen to our skin resulting in a brighter appearance—which explains that after-sex glow. Regular sexual engagement has prolonged effects in this regard and can actually make us look younger. Sex boosts our natural collagen production, which staves off age spots and sagging. So simply put, more wrinkles in the bed = fewer wrinkles on your face!
2. Boosts immunity. You know the old saying, "An apple a day keeps the doctor away"? Turns out there was a typo in that medical journal. It should have said, "Having sex once or twice a week increases levels of an antibody called immunoglobin A (that's the stuff that fights off colds and other infections), which really keeps the doctor away!" Deduction: more sex means a stronger immune system. And with all of those unused sick days, we can cash them out and use them as sex days. Now we're talking!
3. Gives us great hair. Hormones not only control our sex drives, but also the condition of our hair. Research has shown that a satisfying sex life results in healthy, lush hair due to the body's increased ability to receive and metabolize nutrients efficiently. Proof positive that Angelina Jolie and Catherina Zeta-Jones have healthy sex lives!
4. Produces healthy sperm. We know men are proud of their sperm counts, but now we can be, too. Several studies show that men who have frequent sex have higher volumes of semen, a higher sperm count and a higher percentage of healthy sperm compared to men who have infrequent sex. This is good news for women, as research shows the absorption of semen helps us combat depression, boosts our energy and even helps us have a smoother delivery, if we're pregnant. Keys To Happiness: Wealth, Weddings, Semen
5. Reduces stress. Life is stressful. And while there are many proven ways to cure stress: daily exercise, evening glass of wine, bitch-fest with a BFF, morning meditation, a walk on the beach and so on—a good, old-fashioned sex session does the trick, too! Though blood pressure levels spike during the act itself, maintaining a healthy sex life helps us keep blood pressure and stress levels low.
6. Strenghtens nails. The same sex-triggered hormones that make your skin glow also make our nails strong, which means less splitting and breaking, and longer-lasting manicures.
7. Improves heart health. Want your guy to live to 100? Sex can help! Research shows that men who have sex 2+ times per week have a lower risk of heart disease than those who have sex less than once a month. Of course, I've yet to meet a guy who needed cardiovascular research to convince him to have more frequent romps in the sack, but isn't it nice to know we are helping our guys' hearts whenever we have sex?
8. Zaps zits. Say bye-bye to acne treatments and miracle pills! Sex balances our hormone levels, which results in clearer skin. Probably good we didn't know this in high school...
9. Keeps us hydrated. Now here is some real science for you: sex improves circulation, so our blood flows more efficiently, which in turn gives our bodies the moisture they needs to stay healthy. Translation: no more dry skin. Furthermore, having sweaty sex can be like a facial for your skin, as sweat expels excess dirt from our pores. Your man: the sex god and the esthetician!? Who knew?
10. Acts as a natural pain killer. Oxytocin, one of the chemicals released during sex, increases endorphins and decreases pain, particularly headaches—which means that standby headache excuse isn't going to cut it anymore. Sex also speeds up the healing of wounds, even stubborn sores like those suffered by diabetics. Before heading to the medicine cabinet, see if a quickie can't cure minor ailments!
11. Sheds pounds. Got a few pounds to lose but aren't willing to abandon your love affair with hot wings and chocolate cake? Sex could be an option! While it may not be as productive at weight loss as more traditional cardio or strength training, we burn an average of 170 calories per hour of active sex, which is about a pound after 21 hour-long sessions. There are certainly worse ways to lose weight.
12. Lowers our risk of cancer. We love our guys, so let's love their prostates too by helping them get off more often. Studies show that men in their 20s who ejaculate 5+ times a week reduced their risk of prostate cancer by a third, and older men reporting 21+ ejaculations per month lowered their risk as well. As for us ladies, regular sex has been shown to reduce our risk of breast cancer.
13. Fights cavities. Turns out that semen is chock-full of zinc, calcium and other tooth decay-fighting minerals that benefit us when our bodies absorb it. While having lots of sex can't replace a biannual trip to the dentist, having extra doses of these minerals certainly can't hurt our pearly whites.
14. Helps us sleep. Ever wondered why your man konks out after sex? Turns out, he's not trying to avoid a cuddle session. The oxytocin released during orgasm is to blame. The next time you can't sleep, skip the warm milk or sleeping pill, and try getting busy instead.
15. Strengthens our bond. Oxytocin is known as the "love hormone" because it helps people build trust and bond with one other. The more sex a couple has, the more oxytocin is exchanged and, by default, the more bonded they feel. Oxytocin increases feelings of generosity, too, so if you wind up with more random acts of kindness like surprise flowers, you have this miracle hormone to thank.
16. Makes you feel sexy! There is good sex and then there is GREAT sex, and one of the differentiators is your self-esteem. When you feel amazing about yourself, sex is infinitely better. But here is the catch—having sex actually boosts your self-esteem. So the next time you're feeling so-so on the sexy scale, see if a good romp doesn't help
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
The 5 Best (and Worst) Cities for Single Women
Another day, another silly study: This one, from the journal Evolutionary Psychology, found that in areas where women are scarce, they are (wait for it) ... more likely to get married sooner!
"Women are basically getting snapped up [in those places] because the guys want to get her before somebody else does," said study author Daniel Kruger, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan.
We needed a study to tell us that in places where there aren't too many women, the few that are available get married sooner?
Uh, no. But the truly helpful (or at least interesting) thing that the researchers did was to find out what parts of the country have such a meager female population that the market value of all ladies rises.
The 5 Best Cities for Single Women (Or at Least Where Men Are Most Plentiful):
Las Vegas: 11.6 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available ladies
San Diego: 11.5 men for every 10 ladies
Salt Lake City: 11.3 men for every 10 ladies
Austin, Texas: 11.2 men for every 10 ladies
Phoenix: 11.1 men for every 10 ladies
The 5 Worst Cities for Single Women (Or Areas Where Men Are Most Scarce):
Birmingham, Alabama: 8.8 men for every 10 ladies
Memphis, Tennessee: 8.8 for every 10 ladies
New Orleans: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
Richmond, Virginia.: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
And in some serious three-way action at Spot No. 5?
New York City, Philadelphia, and Washington, D.C.! Each of these cities has 9.2 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available women!
"Women are basically getting snapped up [in those places] because the guys want to get her before somebody else does," said study author Daniel Kruger, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan.
We needed a study to tell us that in places where there aren't too many women, the few that are available get married sooner?
Uh, no. But the truly helpful (or at least interesting) thing that the researchers did was to find out what parts of the country have such a meager female population that the market value of all ladies rises.
The 5 Best Cities for Single Women (Or at Least Where Men Are Most Plentiful):
Las Vegas: 11.6 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available ladies
San Diego: 11.5 men for every 10 ladies
Salt Lake City: 11.3 men for every 10 ladies
Austin, Texas: 11.2 men for every 10 ladies
Phoenix: 11.1 men for every 10 ladies
The 5 Worst Cities for Single Women (Or Areas Where Men Are Most Scarce):
Birmingham, Alabama: 8.8 men for every 10 ladies
Memphis, Tennessee: 8.8 for every 10 ladies
New Orleans: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
Richmond, Virginia.: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
And in some serious three-way action at Spot No. 5?
New York City, Philadelphia, and Washington, D.C.! Each of these cities has 9.2 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available women!
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