There are some things that a woman notices before she even has a chance to see how you interact with your world (which is important). My friends and I agree, we could really get into lots of different types of men. True, a lot of girls have their “type” but 90% are open to anyone they can connect with. Bottom line, every man pretty much has a chance with every woman, at least in the beginning.
If she gets into you, she’ll find herself saying, “He’s not really my type, but he….”
We know you aren’t perfect and that’s Ok!
Unless a girl is in some weird space, every girl is going to assess each man who comes into her orbit on the basis of “who” he is, not by stacking him against some preset measure of her “perfect” guy. Yes, we have preferences…dark hair, blue eyes, whatever… but I’ve been into different men from wildly different types, so it’s really the “guy”. There is no one perfect type – there are so many great men and types…most every woman agrees.
So when we’re wandering around, we are looking at men and assessing them all time. This is what we notice.
Digging Your Threads
Men’s bodies are delicious in all their variations.
It’s no less important for you to embrace your body type as it is for the curvy women, the skinny athletic women, the big butt/small chest women, the no butt/big chest women….I love to see a thin man with nice fitted clothes as much as a bigger dude who’s maybe carrying a little extra. They are both nice bodies to hold when you are digging someone.
There is nothing to hide, it’s a nice body just as much as a more muscular body is and when a dude is embracing his “type” and accepting his type…and embracing it by wearing clothes that show it off, it can start some seriously good energy with women. Women like nice, masculine, muscular bodies, no doubt, but I notice the thin men who wear clothes that hug their body too. I know you feel this way about women. It’s as simple as this — when you celebrate your body, I do too.
Relaxed….Smile
Okay the big foggy…relaxed. So what does that mean and how would I know? It’s about smiling out to the world. You don’t have to “wear the grin” but you need to be willing to give one at a moments notice. It’s about being super comfortable and trust me, it shows. We can all tell.
You know exactly what I mean because when I’m relaxed and open to the world, you can tell too in like 15 seconds flat watching me and you like that about me too.
Cool Hair…the perfect mullet?
Do a good job with whatever type of hair you’re promoting. Whatever style you are working, make sure you’re doing that “style” right. There is something about good hair; even if there is no standard definition about what “is” good hair on a man. It seems to be that if you’re working short hair, then keep it trimmed right; if you’re doing something longer, then keep it clean and still trimmed; if you’re really losing your hair, shave it super short so as not to give off a vibe of “pretending” it’s not happening (bald is super sexy), if you’re actually doing a mullet, then damn it, make it a great mullet… no make it the perfect mullet.
It’s about you loving you so that I can too.
Wednesday, November 24, 2010
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Posted In: A Simply Sexy Hair Switch
Thank you, Eva Mendes, for proving that when it comes to hair, it's the simple things that can make it super sexy. The gorgeous actress showed up to the Rome Film Festival this weekend sporting some serious bombshell hair. Notice how she tucked the front pieces behind her ears and let her hair fall only in the back — instead of down her chest like most stars are doing these days. See other celebrity hairstyles you'll want to steal.
This small little tweak (that we’re all capable of doing) instantly gave her the best of both worlds: the man-magnet appeal of long flowing hair in the back, and the face-framing effect of an updo in the front.Check out 8 other hairstyles men love.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Flirting Tips for First Encounters: For Men
There are opportunities every day to have a first encounter with a woman and do some flirting. Men have to be more cautious these days about approaching women so they don’t come across as some sort of creepy or scary guy. Women will be even more cautious of advances if they have their children with them. It doesn’t mean don’t try, just be respectful of their concern for their safety and their children’s safety.
In a bar, grocery store, or even a parking lot, be very observant of the woman’s comfort level of how close you are to her. Most women will need a little more room than you do to feel comfortable. Never approach a woman where she may feel vulnerable. Stay in well lit and crowded areas for first encounters. It is more challenging in today’s times to approach women, but it can be done.
Before you head out of the house be sure to have clean, fresh smelling clothes on. Take the time to shave and shower. Make sure your breath smells fresh. If you are just heading to the store, keep the cologne to a minimum. Have a pen and paper, or your cell handy in case you find someone you want to exchange phone numbers with so you don’t have to wait for her to rummage through her purse.
Before beginning flirting, it is best to try to identify the person as single. If there is a ring on her finger, just stop yourself right there, no need to add drama and heartache to your life. For the others that there is no way to tell, conversation starters can give you clues. You can even throw hints in that you are single. Here are a few to get you started:
If at a grocery store her cart looks like she’s buying ingredients to make a meal-say “It looks like you know how to cook. Being single, it’s hard for me to cook for just one person, I bet your boyfriend/husband appreciates you.”
If its a woman with a group-say “if you look this good going out with your friends, you must look really good going out with your boyfriend or husband.”
For a woman alone-say “the man you are waiting for is really lucky to have a woman like you here to meet him.”
Depending on the answer, you will know what direction to go. Keep your eyes open even if she gives you an answer that would indicate that she is single; not everyone is honest about their relationship status.
With a little thought you can think of more ways to start a conversation to see if you can move to the next step of flirting. Never put down the partner in case there is one. Who knows, she may be single some day and run into you or have a great single friend. Presenting yourself as a positive person with a positive outlook on relationships will get you further.
Flirting isn’t just coming up with the latest and greatest pick up lines. Tried and true pick up lines can make you come across like a player. Flirting is making that lady feel special and that she has your adoring attention for that moment. It is about body language even more than the conversation. Here are some ways to make a conversation turn into flirting:
Consistent direct eye contact (that means don’t turn your head when someone you think is good looking walks by).
Keep a comfortable distance, but slightly lean towards her when talking and listening.
Pay her compliments (not just about appearance, show her that you are paying attention to what she is telling you about herself)
Lots of smiling.
If in close proximity, like what occurs in a bar, while mutually laughing about something, briefly touch her arm (do not be anywhere near the breasts when doing so).
Flirting tips for first encounters in a store:
A grocery store shopping cart is a great conversation starter. There are all kinds of things to talk about from favorite toothpaste to dinner suggestions. Most stores provide a casual and relaxed environment to start conversations. You will see the “real” person and she will not have her wall of protection up as high.
Children may be with a woman when she is shopping. If you genuinely like kids and don’t mind dating a woman with kids, go ahead and start flirting. Acknowledge the children but don’t look too interested in them. Try to fit in a comment about safety to the kids “it is only OK to talk to me when your mom is with you, always be careful who you talk to”. If you can make a genuine compliment to the kids, do so.
Before you leave the area where the woman is that you are flirting with, ask her out. Looking for her or following her through the store can make you look like the stalking type. Make the first date casual like coffee or breakfast date.
Flirting tips for first encounters in a bar:
Don’t use pick up lines and think you will get anywhere. Pick up lines can be conversation starters, though. Ask about the worse ones she’s ever heard and tell her a couple that you tried before you knew better.
Use the noise in a bar as an excuse to get a little closer than you can in other situations. Be sure to keep her smiling.
Not all flirting will end up in a date. Keep practicing. When there is no one around that you are interested in flirting with, watch how others flirt. Pay attention to what matches your personality and what works.
In a bar, grocery store, or even a parking lot, be very observant of the woman’s comfort level of how close you are to her. Most women will need a little more room than you do to feel comfortable. Never approach a woman where she may feel vulnerable. Stay in well lit and crowded areas for first encounters. It is more challenging in today’s times to approach women, but it can be done.
Before you head out of the house be sure to have clean, fresh smelling clothes on. Take the time to shave and shower. Make sure your breath smells fresh. If you are just heading to the store, keep the cologne to a minimum. Have a pen and paper, or your cell handy in case you find someone you want to exchange phone numbers with so you don’t have to wait for her to rummage through her purse.
Before beginning flirting, it is best to try to identify the person as single. If there is a ring on her finger, just stop yourself right there, no need to add drama and heartache to your life. For the others that there is no way to tell, conversation starters can give you clues. You can even throw hints in that you are single. Here are a few to get you started:
If at a grocery store her cart looks like she’s buying ingredients to make a meal-say “It looks like you know how to cook. Being single, it’s hard for me to cook for just one person, I bet your boyfriend/husband appreciates you.”
If its a woman with a group-say “if you look this good going out with your friends, you must look really good going out with your boyfriend or husband.”
For a woman alone-say “the man you are waiting for is really lucky to have a woman like you here to meet him.”
Depending on the answer, you will know what direction to go. Keep your eyes open even if she gives you an answer that would indicate that she is single; not everyone is honest about their relationship status.
With a little thought you can think of more ways to start a conversation to see if you can move to the next step of flirting. Never put down the partner in case there is one. Who knows, she may be single some day and run into you or have a great single friend. Presenting yourself as a positive person with a positive outlook on relationships will get you further.
Flirting isn’t just coming up with the latest and greatest pick up lines. Tried and true pick up lines can make you come across like a player. Flirting is making that lady feel special and that she has your adoring attention for that moment. It is about body language even more than the conversation. Here are some ways to make a conversation turn into flirting:
Consistent direct eye contact (that means don’t turn your head when someone you think is good looking walks by).
Keep a comfortable distance, but slightly lean towards her when talking and listening.
Pay her compliments (not just about appearance, show her that you are paying attention to what she is telling you about herself)
Lots of smiling.
If in close proximity, like what occurs in a bar, while mutually laughing about something, briefly touch her arm (do not be anywhere near the breasts when doing so).
Flirting tips for first encounters in a store:
A grocery store shopping cart is a great conversation starter. There are all kinds of things to talk about from favorite toothpaste to dinner suggestions. Most stores provide a casual and relaxed environment to start conversations. You will see the “real” person and she will not have her wall of protection up as high.
Children may be with a woman when she is shopping. If you genuinely like kids and don’t mind dating a woman with kids, go ahead and start flirting. Acknowledge the children but don’t look too interested in them. Try to fit in a comment about safety to the kids “it is only OK to talk to me when your mom is with you, always be careful who you talk to”. If you can make a genuine compliment to the kids, do so.
Before you leave the area where the woman is that you are flirting with, ask her out. Looking for her or following her through the store can make you look like the stalking type. Make the first date casual like coffee or breakfast date.
Flirting tips for first encounters in a bar:
Don’t use pick up lines and think you will get anywhere. Pick up lines can be conversation starters, though. Ask about the worse ones she’s ever heard and tell her a couple that you tried before you knew better.
Use the noise in a bar as an excuse to get a little closer than you can in other situations. Be sure to keep her smiling.
Not all flirting will end up in a date. Keep practicing. When there is no one around that you are interested in flirting with, watch how others flirt. Pay attention to what matches your personality and what works.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
16 Unexpected Health And Beauty Benefits Of Sex
There are a few things most of us women have in common: we appreciate a decadent dessert, we love a clearance sale at our favorite store and we all wouldn't mind looking and feeling younger and healthier.
Some of us are so devoted to our personal fountain of youth, we invest small fortunes into overflowing bathrooms filled with lotions and potions, visits to trainers, doctors, nutritionists and healers… whatever it takes to find the miracles that will give us smoother skin, fuller hair, less aches and pains, reduce terminal illness risk and just overall, make us feel awesome. Well as it turns out, the secret to youth, might just be right between the sheets: sex!
That's right. Sure, sex feels good, can make you fall more deeply in love, sometimes makes you want to wear a naughty nurse's outfit, you get the picture. But sex is also proven to be good for you, physically. An active sex regimen, a prescription of 2-3 times per week, has fascinating and evidenced-based benefits. Therefore if sex has become a non-priority in your life, you may want to reconsider putting at the top of your "to do" list, because not only could sexcapading result in stronger teeth, it could actually save your life.
Here are 16 health and beauty benefits we reap from having sex:
1. Keeps our skin young and healthy. Sex increases blood circulation, which helps pump oxygen to our skin resulting in a brighter appearance—which explains that after-sex glow. Regular sexual engagement has prolonged effects in this regard and can actually make us look younger. Sex boosts our natural collagen production, which staves off age spots and sagging. So simply put, more wrinkles in the bed = fewer wrinkles on your face!
2. Boosts immunity. You know the old saying, "An apple a day keeps the doctor away"? Turns out there was a typo in that medical journal. It should have said, "Having sex once or twice a week increases levels of an antibody called immunoglobin A (that's the stuff that fights off colds and other infections), which really keeps the doctor away!" Deduction: more sex means a stronger immune system. And with all of those unused sick days, we can cash them out and use them as sex days. Now we're talking!
3. Gives us great hair. Hormones not only control our sex drives, but also the condition of our hair. Research has shown that a satisfying sex life results in healthy, lush hair due to the body's increased ability to receive and metabolize nutrients efficiently. Proof positive that Angelina Jolie and Catherina Zeta-Jones have healthy sex lives!
4. Produces healthy sperm. We know men are proud of their sperm counts, but now we can be, too. Several studies show that men who have frequent sex have higher volumes of semen, a higher sperm count and a higher percentage of healthy sperm compared to men who have infrequent sex. This is good news for women, as research shows the absorption of semen helps us combat depression, boosts our energy and even helps us have a smoother delivery, if we're pregnant. Keys To Happiness: Wealth, Weddings, Semen
5. Reduces stress. Life is stressful. And while there are many proven ways to cure stress: daily exercise, evening glass of wine, bitch-fest with a BFF, morning meditation, a walk on the beach and so on—a good, old-fashioned sex session does the trick, too! Though blood pressure levels spike during the act itself, maintaining a healthy sex life helps us keep blood pressure and stress levels low.
6. Strenghtens nails. The same sex-triggered hormones that make your skin glow also make our nails strong, which means less splitting and breaking, and longer-lasting manicures.
7. Improves heart health. Want your guy to live to 100? Sex can help! Research shows that men who have sex 2+ times per week have a lower risk of heart disease than those who have sex less than once a month. Of course, I've yet to meet a guy who needed cardiovascular research to convince him to have more frequent romps in the sack, but isn't it nice to know we are helping our guys' hearts whenever we have sex?
8. Zaps zits. Say bye-bye to acne treatments and miracle pills! Sex balances our hormone levels, which results in clearer skin. Probably good we didn't know this in high school...
9. Keeps us hydrated. Now here is some real science for you: sex improves circulation, so our blood flows more efficiently, which in turn gives our bodies the moisture they needs to stay healthy. Translation: no more dry skin. Furthermore, having sweaty sex can be like a facial for your skin, as sweat expels excess dirt from our pores. Your man: the sex god and the esthetician!? Who knew?
10. Acts as a natural pain killer. Oxytocin, one of the chemicals released during sex, increases endorphins and decreases pain, particularly headaches—which means that standby headache excuse isn't going to cut it anymore. Sex also speeds up the healing of wounds, even stubborn sores like those suffered by diabetics. Before heading to the medicine cabinet, see if a quickie can't cure minor ailments!
11. Sheds pounds. Got a few pounds to lose but aren't willing to abandon your love affair with hot wings and chocolate cake? Sex could be an option! While it may not be as productive at weight loss as more traditional cardio or strength training, we burn an average of 170 calories per hour of active sex, which is about a pound after 21 hour-long sessions. There are certainly worse ways to lose weight.
12. Lowers our risk of cancer. We love our guys, so let's love their prostates too by helping them get off more often. Studies show that men in their 20s who ejaculate 5+ times a week reduced their risk of prostate cancer by a third, and older men reporting 21+ ejaculations per month lowered their risk as well. As for us ladies, regular sex has been shown to reduce our risk of breast cancer.
13. Fights cavities. Turns out that semen is chock-full of zinc, calcium and other tooth decay-fighting minerals that benefit us when our bodies absorb it. While having lots of sex can't replace a biannual trip to the dentist, having extra doses of these minerals certainly can't hurt our pearly whites.
14. Helps us sleep. Ever wondered why your man konks out after sex? Turns out, he's not trying to avoid a cuddle session. The oxytocin released during orgasm is to blame. The next time you can't sleep, skip the warm milk or sleeping pill, and try getting busy instead.
15. Strengthens our bond. Oxytocin is known as the "love hormone" because it helps people build trust and bond with one other. The more sex a couple has, the more oxytocin is exchanged and, by default, the more bonded they feel. Oxytocin increases feelings of generosity, too, so if you wind up with more random acts of kindness like surprise flowers, you have this miracle hormone to thank.
16. Makes you feel sexy! There is good sex and then there is GREAT sex, and one of the differentiators is your self-esteem. When you feel amazing about yourself, sex is infinitely better. But here is the catch—having sex actually boosts your self-esteem. So the next time you're feeling so-so on the sexy scale, see if a good romp doesn't help
Some of us are so devoted to our personal fountain of youth, we invest small fortunes into overflowing bathrooms filled with lotions and potions, visits to trainers, doctors, nutritionists and healers… whatever it takes to find the miracles that will give us smoother skin, fuller hair, less aches and pains, reduce terminal illness risk and just overall, make us feel awesome. Well as it turns out, the secret to youth, might just be right between the sheets: sex!
That's right. Sure, sex feels good, can make you fall more deeply in love, sometimes makes you want to wear a naughty nurse's outfit, you get the picture. But sex is also proven to be good for you, physically. An active sex regimen, a prescription of 2-3 times per week, has fascinating and evidenced-based benefits. Therefore if sex has become a non-priority in your life, you may want to reconsider putting at the top of your "to do" list, because not only could sexcapading result in stronger teeth, it could actually save your life.
Here are 16 health and beauty benefits we reap from having sex:
1. Keeps our skin young and healthy. Sex increases blood circulation, which helps pump oxygen to our skin resulting in a brighter appearance—which explains that after-sex glow. Regular sexual engagement has prolonged effects in this regard and can actually make us look younger. Sex boosts our natural collagen production, which staves off age spots and sagging. So simply put, more wrinkles in the bed = fewer wrinkles on your face!
2. Boosts immunity. You know the old saying, "An apple a day keeps the doctor away"? Turns out there was a typo in that medical journal. It should have said, "Having sex once or twice a week increases levels of an antibody called immunoglobin A (that's the stuff that fights off colds and other infections), which really keeps the doctor away!" Deduction: more sex means a stronger immune system. And with all of those unused sick days, we can cash them out and use them as sex days. Now we're talking!
3. Gives us great hair. Hormones not only control our sex drives, but also the condition of our hair. Research has shown that a satisfying sex life results in healthy, lush hair due to the body's increased ability to receive and metabolize nutrients efficiently. Proof positive that Angelina Jolie and Catherina Zeta-Jones have healthy sex lives!
4. Produces healthy sperm. We know men are proud of their sperm counts, but now we can be, too. Several studies show that men who have frequent sex have higher volumes of semen, a higher sperm count and a higher percentage of healthy sperm compared to men who have infrequent sex. This is good news for women, as research shows the absorption of semen helps us combat depression, boosts our energy and even helps us have a smoother delivery, if we're pregnant. Keys To Happiness: Wealth, Weddings, Semen
5. Reduces stress. Life is stressful. And while there are many proven ways to cure stress: daily exercise, evening glass of wine, bitch-fest with a BFF, morning meditation, a walk on the beach and so on—a good, old-fashioned sex session does the trick, too! Though blood pressure levels spike during the act itself, maintaining a healthy sex life helps us keep blood pressure and stress levels low.
6. Strenghtens nails. The same sex-triggered hormones that make your skin glow also make our nails strong, which means less splitting and breaking, and longer-lasting manicures.
7. Improves heart health. Want your guy to live to 100? Sex can help! Research shows that men who have sex 2+ times per week have a lower risk of heart disease than those who have sex less than once a month. Of course, I've yet to meet a guy who needed cardiovascular research to convince him to have more frequent romps in the sack, but isn't it nice to know we are helping our guys' hearts whenever we have sex?
8. Zaps zits. Say bye-bye to acne treatments and miracle pills! Sex balances our hormone levels, which results in clearer skin. Probably good we didn't know this in high school...
9. Keeps us hydrated. Now here is some real science for you: sex improves circulation, so our blood flows more efficiently, which in turn gives our bodies the moisture they needs to stay healthy. Translation: no more dry skin. Furthermore, having sweaty sex can be like a facial for your skin, as sweat expels excess dirt from our pores. Your man: the sex god and the esthetician!? Who knew?
10. Acts as a natural pain killer. Oxytocin, one of the chemicals released during sex, increases endorphins and decreases pain, particularly headaches—which means that standby headache excuse isn't going to cut it anymore. Sex also speeds up the healing of wounds, even stubborn sores like those suffered by diabetics. Before heading to the medicine cabinet, see if a quickie can't cure minor ailments!
11. Sheds pounds. Got a few pounds to lose but aren't willing to abandon your love affair with hot wings and chocolate cake? Sex could be an option! While it may not be as productive at weight loss as more traditional cardio or strength training, we burn an average of 170 calories per hour of active sex, which is about a pound after 21 hour-long sessions. There are certainly worse ways to lose weight.
12. Lowers our risk of cancer. We love our guys, so let's love their prostates too by helping them get off more often. Studies show that men in their 20s who ejaculate 5+ times a week reduced their risk of prostate cancer by a third, and older men reporting 21+ ejaculations per month lowered their risk as well. As for us ladies, regular sex has been shown to reduce our risk of breast cancer.
13. Fights cavities. Turns out that semen is chock-full of zinc, calcium and other tooth decay-fighting minerals that benefit us when our bodies absorb it. While having lots of sex can't replace a biannual trip to the dentist, having extra doses of these minerals certainly can't hurt our pearly whites.
14. Helps us sleep. Ever wondered why your man konks out after sex? Turns out, he's not trying to avoid a cuddle session. The oxytocin released during orgasm is to blame. The next time you can't sleep, skip the warm milk or sleeping pill, and try getting busy instead.
15. Strengthens our bond. Oxytocin is known as the "love hormone" because it helps people build trust and bond with one other. The more sex a couple has, the more oxytocin is exchanged and, by default, the more bonded they feel. Oxytocin increases feelings of generosity, too, so if you wind up with more random acts of kindness like surprise flowers, you have this miracle hormone to thank.
16. Makes you feel sexy! There is good sex and then there is GREAT sex, and one of the differentiators is your self-esteem. When you feel amazing about yourself, sex is infinitely better. But here is the catch—having sex actually boosts your self-esteem. So the next time you're feeling so-so on the sexy scale, see if a good romp doesn't help
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
The 5 Best (and Worst) Cities for Single Women
Another day, another silly study: This one, from the journal Evolutionary Psychology, found that in areas where women are scarce, they are (wait for it) ... more likely to get married sooner!
"Women are basically getting snapped up [in those places] because the guys want to get her before somebody else does," said study author Daniel Kruger, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan.
We needed a study to tell us that in places where there aren't too many women, the few that are available get married sooner?
Uh, no. But the truly helpful (or at least interesting) thing that the researchers did was to find out what parts of the country have such a meager female population that the market value of all ladies rises.
The 5 Best Cities for Single Women (Or at Least Where Men Are Most Plentiful):
Las Vegas: 11.6 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available ladies
San Diego: 11.5 men for every 10 ladies
Salt Lake City: 11.3 men for every 10 ladies
Austin, Texas: 11.2 men for every 10 ladies
Phoenix: 11.1 men for every 10 ladies
The 5 Worst Cities for Single Women (Or Areas Where Men Are Most Scarce):
Birmingham, Alabama: 8.8 men for every 10 ladies
Memphis, Tennessee: 8.8 for every 10 ladies
New Orleans: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
Richmond, Virginia.: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
And in some serious three-way action at Spot No. 5?
New York City, Philadelphia, and Washington, D.C.! Each of these cities has 9.2 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available women!
"Women are basically getting snapped up [in those places] because the guys want to get her before somebody else does," said study author Daniel Kruger, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of Michigan.
We needed a study to tell us that in places where there aren't too many women, the few that are available get married sooner?
Uh, no. But the truly helpful (or at least interesting) thing that the researchers did was to find out what parts of the country have such a meager female population that the market value of all ladies rises.
The 5 Best Cities for Single Women (Or at Least Where Men Are Most Plentiful):
Las Vegas: 11.6 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available ladies
San Diego: 11.5 men for every 10 ladies
Salt Lake City: 11.3 men for every 10 ladies
Austin, Texas: 11.2 men for every 10 ladies
Phoenix: 11.1 men for every 10 ladies
The 5 Worst Cities for Single Women (Or Areas Where Men Are Most Scarce):
Birmingham, Alabama: 8.8 men for every 10 ladies
Memphis, Tennessee: 8.8 for every 10 ladies
New Orleans: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
Richmond, Virginia.: 8.9 for every 10 ladies
And in some serious three-way action at Spot No. 5?
New York City, Philadelphia, and Washington, D.C.! Each of these cities has 9.2 sexually available men for every 10 sexually available women!
Monday, September 13, 2010
21 Brazilian footwear companies participate in GDS
From September 10th to 12th, the attention of the world Leather footwear Sector is attracted by Düsseldorf, in Germany, which hosts the traditional GDS show. Over 760 exhibitors showcase their ideas for the 2011 Northern Hemisphere spring-summer season.
The fair, regarded as the gateway for the companies seeking to join the very competitive international fashion and comfort market, brings together some 1.7 thousand collections ranging from avant-garde to classic designers.
Betting on this market, 21 Brazilian companies participate in GDS through the Footwear Exports– Program of Promotion to Footwear Exports, developed by ABICALÇADOS -Brazilian Association of the Footwear Industry) jointly with the Trade and Investment Promotion Agency
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Oksana Says Goodbye to Important Witness
Oksana Grigorieva is currently attending funeral services for a close friend of hers ... a friend who also happened to babysit for Oksana and Mel Gibson's daughter Lucia ... and may have had some critical information about Mel.
As we previously reported, the babysitter had claimed that she was at Mel's home on January 6th -- and allegedly heard the actor go crazy while Oksana was at her son's basketball game.
The woman -- who died after battling cancer -- claimed to have heard part of the explosive argument between Mel and Oksana later that day, but claims she left before any alleged blows were struck.
And ... we're told the babysitter never gave a sworn statement to police or the lawyers regarding the incident ... because she claimed she was sick and had other things on her mind.
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
5 Ways Relationships Are Ruined By Cheating
There are absolutely many ways cheating can ruin a relationship. Ways that can sometimes uneasy to detect other than not obvious ones lurking deep and waiting to strike when you least expect it. Cheating is no doubt under the greatest consideration when you are wary of the outcomes.
There are 5 ways relationships can be ruined thus you have to take them with utmost importance especially if you are cheating on your spouse now.
1) Cheating and lying comes hand in hand. With due time, cheating occurs in an attempt to take away the time you devote for your family or your relationship. Maintaining an affair is very hard and a lie is a big necessity to behold. When you lie especially when it’s frequent, you pave way for your spouse to know you are indeed cheating.
2) Cheating is expensive. In this recession, one cannot expect a less costly endeavor. The economy is more risky than before so don’t be certain of the current market we have right now. Money should stay with the household budget and savings plans. Otherwise, prepare for a more secured accounting of your budget. Money has to go somewhere and if your wife doesn’t know where it went then you should have an explanation better than donation excuses.
3) Losing focus. When the relationship isn’t clear anymore there might be something wrong with it. More likely, cheating is a culprit of the downturn. Of all the best things in life, it’s the only thing you’ll never have again so unique of its kind. A family you took care of so hard since the start. Cheating has been a distraction and it’s time to get back on focus before your spouse notices.
4) It hurts the people you love most in this world. Not only are you hurting your wife but, if you have children together, you are hurting your entire family. These are the people who love you no matter what. Adultery hurts them in more ways than you’ll ever know.
5) It makes your spouse feel like a second class citizen or as though he or she is somehow second best. The last thing you want to do is erode the self-confidence of the person you profess to love. Cheating does this and there is little that can be done to correct the problem. It just takes time.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Made up: Multi-millionaire Katie Price blags bags of free cosmetics
In the never-ending quest for the perfectly polished look, no stone - or nail - is left unturned or un-buffed for Katie Price.
So no wonder the glamour model and businesswomen - said to be worth £30m in the Sunday Times Rich List - managed to find time in her hectic schedule to blag some free nail varnish.
The 32-year-old star - also known as Jordan - popped in to see a friend who happens to work in cosmetics PR.
Looking like the proverbial 'kid in a sweetshop', Katie sniffed and tried out of host of lotions and potions on offer, at one point, sniffing a pot of gloop that looked alarmingly like guacamole.
But one brand in particular that caught her eye was the aptly named Models Own nail varnish and she picked out a number of shades.
A spokesperson at Wizard PR told MailOnline: 'Yes, she came to our office and we gave her some of our products to try out. One of her best friends works here. It was all being filmed for her TV show too.'
The model is certainly a manicure fan. On Monday, the star Tweeted: 'At last sitting down ready to get my nails down eating a curry and gonna watch The Hospital, ha ah.'
Still, with that amount of money, she could afford to get her cuticles and acrylics seen to every day without having to do it herself - or blagging freebies.
But perhaps her visit to the cosmetics PR's office will even inspire the sharp-minded star to launch her own brand of make-up...
She could probably do with cheering herself up. Yesterday, Katie, 32, who married 34-year-old cagefighter Alex Reid in February, was forced to hit back at reports that we was pregnant.
Posting on her official Twitter account (@misskatieprice), she stated: 'I hear the DAILY STAR have written rubbish again headline "jordans new baby joy" I can confirm I'm 100% not pregnant!'
The star opined afterwards: 'It seems that in the media that if a girl doesn’t have a flat stomach or is a size zero that means she is pregnant. Give us girls a break.'
The report in the Star must have been frustrating for the self-made businesswoman, as she's often expressed her desire to add to her brood of Harvey, eight, and her two children with former husband Peter Andre, Princess, three, and Junior, five.
As for her next reality TV show, she's signed a deal with Virgin Media TV.
It's said to be along the lines of her What Katie Did Next series. Her deal with ITV ends in November.
Yummy mummies, celebrities keeping health at the gym
Staying hydrated: Reese Witherspoon makes her way to her car in Brentwood, water bottle in hand, following her workout
Any actress or model worth her salt knows that her body is her calling card, particularly in Hollywood. And maintaining that body doesn't come easily, especially if you've already had a child or two.
Yummy mummies Reese Witherspoon, Camila Alves and Ellen Pompeo certainly know this, and all three make sure to spend time working out at their local gyms in the Los Angeles area.
Reese Witherspoon was spotted leaving a gym in black workout leggings, a zip-up blue jacket and carrying her water bottle as she made her way to her car in her Brentwood neighbourhood.
The 34-year-old has two children, Ava, 10, and Deacon, 6, from her former marriage to actor Ryan Phillipe.
Along with gym workouts, she's also been keeping her body in shape filming her upcoming movie Water for Elephants, in which she spends a lot of time riding horses.
Grey's Anatomy television star Ellen Pompeo, was dressed in all black workout gear as she left a gym in Studio City.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
When You Don't Like Yourself
Some people have the misfortune to have been born to abusive parents who belittled them and prevented them from developing a healthy self-esteem. Others are born predisposed to view themselves in a negative light because of their physical appearance, a disability, or for no reason anyone, including themselves, knows. Research has consistently supported the notion that it's difficult to be happy without liking oneself. But how can one learn to like oneself when one doesn't?
WHAT PART OF OURSELVES DO WE DISLIKE?
People filled with self-loathing typically imagine they dislike every part of themselves, but this is rarely, if ever, true. More commonly, if asked what specific parts of themselves they dislike, they're able to provide specific answers: their physical appearance, their inability to excel academically or at a job, or maybe their inability to accomplish their dreams. Yet when presented, for example, a scenario in which they come upon a child trapped under a car at the scene of an accident, that they recoil in horror and would want urgently to do something to help rarely causes them to credit themselves for the humanity such a reaction indicates.
Why do self-loathers so readily overlook the good parts of themselves? The answer in most cases turns out to relate not to the fact that they have negative qualities but to the disproportionate weight they lend them. People who dislike themselves may acknowledge they have positive attributes but any emotional impact they have simply gets blotted out.
THE SOURCE OF SELF-LOATHING
Which makes learning to like oneself no easy task. Many people, in fact, spend a lifetime in therapy in pursuit of self-love, struggling as if learning a new language as an adult rather than as a child.
Before such a change will occur, however, the essential cause of one's self-loathing needs to be apprehended. By this I don't mean the historical cause. The circumstances that initially lead people to dislike themselves do so by triggering a thought process of self-loathing that continues long after the circumstances that set it in motion have resolved, a thought process that continues to gain momentum the longer it remains unchallenged, much like a boulder picks up speed rolling down a mountain as long as nothing gets in its way. For example, your parents may have failed to praise you or support your accomplishments in school when you were young—perhaps even largely ignored you—which led you to conclude they didn't care about you, which then led you to conclude you're not worth caring about. It's this last idea, not the memory of your parents ignoring you, that gathers the power within your life to make you loathe yourself if not checked by adult reasoning early on. Once a narrative of worthlessness embeds itself in one's mind, it becomes extraordinarily difficult to disbelieve it, especially when one can find evidence that it represents a true account.
But a narrative is just that: a story we tell ourselves. It may very well contain elements of truth—that we are unattractive, that we do fail a lot of the time, or that our parents didn't find us all that lovable—but to proceed from facts such as these to the conclusion that we're deserving only of our own derision constitutes a significant thought error.
THE TRUE SOURCE OF SELF-ESTEEM
The problem is that we common mortals can hardly avoid deriving our self-esteem from the wrong source—even those of us whose self-esteem is healthy. We look to what in Nichiren Buddhism is termed the "smaller self," the parts of ourselves that seem better than those of others and to which we become overly attached. In other words, we ground our self-esteem in things about ourselves we perceive as unique: typically our looks, our skills, or our accomplishments.
But we only need to experience the loss of any one of these supportive elements to recognize the danger of relying on them to create our self-esteem. Looks, as we all know, fade. Unwanted weight is often gained. Illness sometimes strikes, preventing us from running as fast, concentrating as hard, or thinking as clearly as we once did. Past accomplishments lose their ability to sustain us the farther into the past we have to look for them.
I'm not arguing that basing our self-esteem on our positive qualities is wrong. But we should aim to base it on positive qualities that require no comparison to the qualities of others for us to value them. We must awaken to the essential goodness—to what in Nichiren Buddhism is termed our "larger self"—that lies within us all. If we want to fall in love with our lives—and by this I don't mean the "we"of our small-minded egos—we must work diligently to manifest our larger selves in our daily lives. We must generate the wisdom and compassion to care for others until we've turned ourselves, piece by piece, into the people we most want to be.
In other words, if we want to like ourselves we have to earn our own respect. Luckily, doing this doesn't require that we become people of extraordinary physical attractiveness or accomplishment. It only requires we become people of extraordinary character—something anyone can do.
A simple thought experiment supports this notion: think right now of your favorite person and ask yourself, what is it about them that attracts you the most? Odds are it isn't their physical appearance or their accomplishments but rather their magnanimous spirit; the way they treat others. This is the key quality that makes people likable, even to themselves.
Treating others well, it turns out, is the fastest path to a healthy self-esteem. If you dislike yourself, stop focusing on your negative qualities. We all have negative qualities. There's nothing special about your negativity, I promise you. Focus instead on caring for others. Because the more you care about others, I guarantee the more in turn you'll be able to care about yourself.
Friday, August 13, 2010
How to Get Eyelashes So Long You May Have To Trim Them
Ask any woman the one thing she wishes she could change about her eyes and she's almost guaranteed to say her lashes. The eyes are often referred to as the face's best feature, and long lashes continue to get a lot of attention. Since the first mass-produced mascara was created in the early 1900s, women have been able to lengthen, thicken and darken their less-than perfect lashes.
Sometimes mascara isn't enough. Fake lashes and lash extensions have been the best friend of Hollywood starlets and runway models for years. Still, for the general public these glue-on applications are more trouble (and money) than they're worth.
Little wonder then that cosmetic and skin care companies have been hard at work trying to develop an effective way to deliver longer and thicker lashes without having to coat them in thick goop, or glue fakes on.
The big news recently regarding lashes was the development of a prescription product that uses a drug, originally developed to treat glaucoma, to promote the growth and thickness of eyelashes. Unfortunately, as with most prescription products this one is associated with side effects and it’s also not cheap.
Now however, new cosmetic companies are starting to develop products that deliver proven results without the risks associated with prescription drugs. One of the most exciting of the products is called SmartLash.
SmartLash is one of a small group of companies with extensive experience in anti-aging skin care that are leveraging the latest discoveries in hair growth to create effective and affordable products that actually promote the appearance of longer, thicker, fuller lashes.
These discoveries center on the role played by certain peptides and proteins, which when applied at the base of the eyelash, support stronger, more voluminous-looking lashes.
But that’s only half the story. It’s no use accelerating the growth of your eyelashes if they are weak and brittle, a condition that leads to breakage and which is a major contributing factor in short, unattractive lashes. SmartLash contains a powerful blend of amino acids and conditioning agents, which nourish and strengthen eyelashes against breakage, allowing them to reach their full potential.
What’s most amazing about the SmartLash technology are the results it delivers. People have become used to cosmecuetical products claiming the world, but delivering only modest, if any results at all. SmartLash, on the other hand, in an extensive 90 day consumer study was shown to increase eyelash length by up to an amazing 68%! And it works quickly – with results seen in as little as seven days.
The company, apparently aware that women have become skeptical of these types of claims wisely decided to offer SmartLash through a free trial offer. Just pay shipping and you get to try SmartLash for 30 days and then decide if you want to pay for it or not.
It’s a refreshing way to allow woman to properly sample a product and see the results for themselves before they decide if it lives up to the claims and is worth the price.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
The Biggest Question of the Summer: Who Will Design Chelsea Clinton's Wedding Dress?
Which designer Chelsea Clinton will choose to design her wedding dress has caused more debate than the ending of 'Inception.'
Now, Susannah Cahn at StyleList takes us deep within the ever expanding mystery:
It's already been a question among fashion insiders for months: Will bride-to-be Chelsea Clinton wear Vera Wang or Oscar de la Renta when she walks down the aisle to marry investment-banker fiance Marc Mezvinsky on July 31 in Rhinebeck, NY?
A friend told our friends at StyleList back in June that Clinton had a made-to-measure wedding dress in Vera Wang's workshop, confirming what we had speculated all along -- the presidential progeny was opting for the epitome of classic American bridal. That was until Sheryl Gay Stolberg, The New York Times' White House correspondent, told Ann Curry on 'The Today Show' that the former first daughter had chosen an Oscar de la Renta gown.
Did we speak too soon? The plot thickens. WWD's Wednesday cover features Chelsea, obscured by a large floppy hat, arriving at Vera Wang's midtown showroom in New York City on July 27 to meet her Secretary of State mom Hillary Rodham Clinton, who was already there.
Reportedly, Wang is doing the bridesmaids' dresses, the flower girls' dresses, as well as the all-important wedding dress. And supposedly Hillary and Chelsea have met with Wang five to 10 times over the last four months. OK. Settled. Score one for StyleList.
Or, maybe not. Hillary was also spotted dropping by Oscar de la Renta's Manhattan showroom later the same day. There are conflicting reports as to whether Chelsea accompanied her mom, but the duo has allegedly met with de la Renta numerous times of late.
Now, Susannah Cahn at StyleList takes us deep within the ever expanding mystery:
It's already been a question among fashion insiders for months: Will bride-to-be Chelsea Clinton wear Vera Wang or Oscar de la Renta when she walks down the aisle to marry investment-banker fiance Marc Mezvinsky on July 31 in Rhinebeck, NY?
A friend told our friends at StyleList back in June that Clinton had a made-to-measure wedding dress in Vera Wang's workshop, confirming what we had speculated all along -- the presidential progeny was opting for the epitome of classic American bridal. That was until Sheryl Gay Stolberg, The New York Times' White House correspondent, told Ann Curry on 'The Today Show' that the former first daughter had chosen an Oscar de la Renta gown.
Did we speak too soon? The plot thickens. WWD's Wednesday cover features Chelsea, obscured by a large floppy hat, arriving at Vera Wang's midtown showroom in New York City on July 27 to meet her Secretary of State mom Hillary Rodham Clinton, who was already there.
Reportedly, Wang is doing the bridesmaids' dresses, the flower girls' dresses, as well as the all-important wedding dress. And supposedly Hillary and Chelsea have met with Wang five to 10 times over the last four months. OK. Settled. Score one for StyleList.
Or, maybe not. Hillary was also spotted dropping by Oscar de la Renta's Manhattan showroom later the same day. There are conflicting reports as to whether Chelsea accompanied her mom, but the duo has allegedly met with de la Renta numerous times of late.
Monday, August 2, 2010
The Un-Divorced
JOHN FROST and his wife had been unhappily married for much of their 25 years together when his company relocated him in 2000. So when he moved from Virginia to Knoxville, Tenn., he left her behind.
At first, it wasn’t clear what would happen next. Would she follow him? Or would they end up divorced?
The answer: neither. “After a few months,” Mr. Frost said, “we both realized we liked it this way.”
Technically, the two are married. They file joint tax returns; she’s covered by his insurance. But they see each other just several times a year. “Since separating we get along better than we ever have,” he said. “It’s kind of nice.”
And at 58, he sees no reason to divorce. Their children have grown and left home. He asked himself: Why bring in a bunch of lawyers? Why create rancor when there’s nowhere to go but down?
“To tie a bow around it would only make it uglier,” Mr. Frost said. “When people ask about my relationship status, I usually just say: ‘It’s complicated. I like my wife, I just can’t live with her.’ ”
The term “trial separation” conjures a swift purgatory, something ducked into regretfully and escaped from with due speed, even if into that most conclusive of relationships, divorce. We understand the expeditious voyage from separation to divorce, the desire for a clear-cut ending that makes way for a clear-cut beginning. We hardly look askance at the miserably married or the exes who hurl epithets in divorce court.
But couples who stubbornly remain separated, sometimes for years? That leaves us dumbfounded. “I see it all the time,” said Lynne Gold-Bikin, a divorce lawyer in Norristown, Pa., who is the chairman of the family law department at Weber Gallagher. She can cite a docket of cases of endless separation.
With one couple separated since 1989, the wife’s perspective was, “We still get invited as Mr. and Mrs., we go to functions together, he still sends me cards,” Ms. Gold-Bikin said. As for the husband, “He cared for her, he just didn’t want to live with her.”
But at his girlfriend’s urging, he finally initiated divorce proceedings. Then he became ill and she began taking over his finances — a bit too wifelike for him. “He said, enough of this, there’s no reason to get divorced,” Ms. Gold-Bikin recalled.
Among those who seem to have reached a similar conclusion is Warren Buffett, the wealthy chairman of Berkshire Hathaway. Mr. Buffett separated from his wife, Susan, in 1977 but remained married to her until her death in 2004. All the while, he lived with Astrid Menks; they married in 2006. The threesome remained close, even sending out holiday cards signed, “Warren, Susan and Astrid.”
Also in the ranks of the un-divorced: the artist Willem de Kooning had been separated from his wife for 34 years when she died in 1989. Jann and Jane Wenner separated in 1995 after 28 years but are still married, despite Mr. Wenner’s romantic relationship with a man.
Society is full of whispered scenarios in which spouses live apart, in different homes or in the same mega-apartment in order to silence gossip, avoid ugly divorce battles and maintain the status quo, however uneasy. In certain cases, the world assumes a couple is divorced and never learns otherwise until an obituary puts the record straight.
Separations are usually de facto, rarely pounded out in a contract, and family law is different state to state. But even long-estranged couples are irrefutably bound by contractual links on issues like taxes, pensions, Social Security and health care.
Divorce lawyers and marriage therapists say that for most couples, the motivation to remain married is financial. According to federal law, an ex qualifies for a share of a spouse’s Social Security payment if the marriage lasts a decade. In the case of more amicable divorces, financial advisers and lawyers may urge a couple who have been married eight years to wait until the dependent spouse qualifies.
For others, a separation agreement may be negotiated so that a spouse keeps the other’s insurance until he or she is old enough for Medicare. If one person has an existing condition, obtaining affordable health care coverage is often difficulty or impossible. The recession, with its real estate lows and health care expense highs, adds incentives to separate indefinitely.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Speed Dating
Can you really meet the man or women of your dreams after just a few minutes of casual chit-chat? That's the premise behind speed dating, a new mating sport that is being played in bars, clubs and community centers in North America and Europe.
The best way to describe speed dating is as a cross between a job interview, a blind date and a game of musical chairs. Participants get three to eight minutes, depending on where you are playing the game, to meet scores of different potential partners. With speed dating you can meet as many as twenty-five people (maybe more, depending on the length of the game) in one fell swoop.
Some see speed dating as being the ideal hybrid between online and offline dating. You get to meet a number of strangers within the safety of a friendly and merry environment that is policed by the organizers. At the end of the night you can ask a partner for a date, but a date only takes place if the other party is in agreement. In most speed dating games, most communication is written or concealed from the potential dates. A big plus is that it spares singles the face-to-face embarrassment of turning someone down.
You are advised to turn down speed dating events that are too publicly advertised or take place in a bar that is known for its wild antics. Often, with this type of heavily promoted speed dating venture, you run the risk of having an audience gawk at you while you meet potential partners. Always check out the venue before you attend an event to make sure that you are not part of a public spectacle. Speed dating that is held at a church or community venue is probably your safest bet when it comes to privacy, tact and anonymity.
Speed dating probably best suits busy careerists who would benefit from meeting as many people as they can within a short period of time. This includes busy individuals such as lawyers or performers who have had no time for pursuing romance simply because they have spent a decade or so focusing on education and then launching a business. Speed dating also suits health professionals and individuals who work off-hours, such as waitresses, shift-workers, and health professionals. Speed dating is ideal for those who always find themselves working the traditional date nights such as Friday and Saturday night.
Speed dating also benefits those who are looking for a more serious relationship, as it is understood that these functions are for individuals who are looking for a long-term connection. If you are sick of the immaturity or addictions that come hand-in-hand with people you meet in bars and clubs then this might be a more efficient way to meet someone who is not intent on wasting your time with their emotional problems.
The best way to describe speed dating is as a cross between a job interview, a blind date and a game of musical chairs. Participants get three to eight minutes, depending on where you are playing the game, to meet scores of different potential partners. With speed dating you can meet as many as twenty-five people (maybe more, depending on the length of the game) in one fell swoop.
Some see speed dating as being the ideal hybrid between online and offline dating. You get to meet a number of strangers within the safety of a friendly and merry environment that is policed by the organizers. At the end of the night you can ask a partner for a date, but a date only takes place if the other party is in agreement. In most speed dating games, most communication is written or concealed from the potential dates. A big plus is that it spares singles the face-to-face embarrassment of turning someone down.
You are advised to turn down speed dating events that are too publicly advertised or take place in a bar that is known for its wild antics. Often, with this type of heavily promoted speed dating venture, you run the risk of having an audience gawk at you while you meet potential partners. Always check out the venue before you attend an event to make sure that you are not part of a public spectacle. Speed dating that is held at a church or community venue is probably your safest bet when it comes to privacy, tact and anonymity.
Speed dating probably best suits busy careerists who would benefit from meeting as many people as they can within a short period of time. This includes busy individuals such as lawyers or performers who have had no time for pursuing romance simply because they have spent a decade or so focusing on education and then launching a business. Speed dating also suits health professionals and individuals who work off-hours, such as waitresses, shift-workers, and health professionals. Speed dating is ideal for those who always find themselves working the traditional date nights such as Friday and Saturday night.
Speed dating also benefits those who are looking for a more serious relationship, as it is understood that these functions are for individuals who are looking for a long-term connection. If you are sick of the immaturity or addictions that come hand-in-hand with people you meet in bars and clubs then this might be a more efficient way to meet someone who is not intent on wasting your time with their emotional problems.
Friday, July 23, 2010
Having sex in an unusual place
Ever joined the Mile High Club, had sex in the sea, copulated in the cinema, experienced love in a lift, got all amorous alfresco or even done it on your desk at work?
Having sex in an unusual place is one of the most common naughty fantasies: maybe it's exhibitionism, the risk/danger factor or just the excitement of taking sex out of its usual context and doing it in a different place. And many of you saucy soFeminine readers have had at least one experience of sex in an, ahem, original place...
9 of our readers confess where they've had sex in a public or 'original' place, how they went about it and the precautions they took (aside from the obvious!).
Have you ever done it in a public place? Would you dare? Tell us what you think by taking part in our survey.
Having sex in an unusual place is one of the most common naughty fantasies: maybe it's exhibitionism, the risk/danger factor or just the excitement of taking sex out of its usual context and doing it in a different place. And many of you saucy soFeminine readers have had at least one experience of sex in an, ahem, original place...
9 of our readers confess where they've had sex in a public or 'original' place, how they went about it and the precautions they took (aside from the obvious!).
Have you ever done it in a public place? Would you dare? Tell us what you think by taking part in our survey.
Tuesday, July 20, 2010
What Is Sex?
What is sex may seem like a silly question for an adult to ask, but after speaking and corresponding with thousands of people over the years I’ve come to believe that many of our problems about sex are actually problems of definition. As such every search for information, tips and techniques, or answers to sexual problems can benefit from taking a moment to make sure we know what we’re talking about when we talk about sex.
Definitions of Sex
Anna Freud famously wrote that “sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are.” This way of understanding sex highlights the difference between the act of sex and the individual experience of sexuality, which is an intrinsic part of who we are, one that can’t be separated out of ourselves any more than our ethnicity or religious/spiritual beliefs.
Dictionary definitions of sex tend to be less literary, offering several definitions including:
Sex is a way of distinguishing male and female members of a species, usually by referencing their reproductive functions.
Sex refers to coitus or intercourse, an act that can result in reproduction.
Sex refers to the genitals.
The answer you get to the question “what is sex” depends largely on who you ask. A doctor might tell you that sex is defined by hormones in your body; a therapist might say that sex is all in your head; a guru may tell you that sex is about getting closer to God. Given such broad definitions, it can be helpful to narrow your focus and figure out what aspect of sex you want to learn more about.
Definitions of Sex
Anna Freud famously wrote that “sex is something you do, sexuality is something you are.” This way of understanding sex highlights the difference between the act of sex and the individual experience of sexuality, which is an intrinsic part of who we are, one that can’t be separated out of ourselves any more than our ethnicity or religious/spiritual beliefs.
Dictionary definitions of sex tend to be less literary, offering several definitions including:
Sex is a way of distinguishing male and female members of a species, usually by referencing their reproductive functions.
Sex refers to coitus or intercourse, an act that can result in reproduction.
Sex refers to the genitals.
The answer you get to the question “what is sex” depends largely on who you ask. A doctor might tell you that sex is defined by hormones in your body; a therapist might say that sex is all in your head; a guru may tell you that sex is about getting closer to God. Given such broad definitions, it can be helpful to narrow your focus and figure out what aspect of sex you want to learn more about.
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